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    I have just had for the second time the experience of addressing in good faith comments by fpqc to a question of mine, only to be drawn into a game of his repeatedly making and then deleting comments. Some of the comments that fpqc has made and quickly deleted are quite disrespectful, signficantly more so than the comments he lets stand. I find the practice of posting and then deleting impolite comments in the hope that the intended recipient will read them but that the moderators will not catch them highly inappropriate. I think most other MOers would agree with me.

    Up until now, my strategy for dealing with fpqci had been an approach of rewarding his good behavior and calling attention to some of his more egregious bad behavior. I can see now that this is not effective, or at least not effective enough.

    My new strategy is a non-feeding philosophy: at the present time I will no longer answer questions or respond in any way -- including voting, either up or down -- to answers or comments posted by fpqc. (Exception: I will still flag blatantly inappropriate posts.) I will keep up this policy for one week and then reevaluate.

    If you feel this is a good strategy, please go ahead and join in. If you agree that there is a problem here and have some better idea in mind please let me know, by email if you wish.

    MODERATOR (scott): This discussion has degenerated into a pointless argument. I am about to edit out the use of fpqc's real name, as he has asked that it not be used in this thread, and I don't think any meaning is lost, and then close the thread.

    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    The correct timeline:
    I post a comment about complete local m-adically separated rings
    I post a link to Hochster's notes
    There is a grammatical error in my second comment, so I revise it twice.
    I realize that my first comment is irrelevant and delete it.
    My second comment remains
    I post another comment that says "it should be straightforward to get the Normed field versions of these conditions..."
    You post your comment after this comment.
    I post a response comment
    I post that I deleted my first comment before you posted your first comment.
    You post that you're not going to play games with me anymore
    I delete all of my comments because your comment was rude
    I post a bunch of retorts but quickly delete them because either they aren't clever or they're too nasty (although not inappropriate)

    (End)
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    Then... maybe you shouldn't post them at all?

    Look, it's not very hard to think before you post something. It's a habit we should all try to cultivate and maybe it will temper some of the problems you've been having on MO. This doesn't just extend to rude comments - I've noticed that you have a tendency to misinterpret questions and then aggressively press your point of view until you realize you've misinterpreted the question. In particular, you seem to be very quick to assume that the people you are arguing with - who are almost always older and wiser than either of us - are wrong. Have you considered that the attitude that needs changing is yours and not Pete's?

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    The following two comments seem relevant:

    @fpqc, Leonid: I believe it's considered bad netiquette to try to guess the identities of pseudonymous users. (I made this mistake here once.) I do think it's also a little silly to be pseudonymous and make statements about your own work, but that's up to the user. – Pete L. Clark 2 days ago
    I think what's particularly bad netiquette is to post their names online as a guess. For example, several pseudonymous posters here have links to their homepages from their userpages. So figuring out who they are is certainly fine. But the reason they're pseudonymous is to control what comes up when you google their name. Hence what's bad netiquette is to actually type out their full name online. – Noah Snyder 2 days ago

    both of which got 7 upvotes, so they would seem to reflect community consensus.

    Also, although I obviously haven't read fpqc's deleted comments, I strongly feel that Pete's first post in this thread is overstating his case. There is the well-known saying "Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity", which I feel applies here --- Sorry, fpqc! This part: "I find the practice of posting and then deleting impolite comments in the hope that the intended recipient will read them but that the moderators will not catch them highly inappropriate. I think most other MOers would agree with me." I find to be just classless, when for all we know fpqc might be posting rude comments, regretting them immediately afterwards, and then deleting them. In fact I find that a lot more likely than your convoluted explaination of his behaviour. For instance, in the comment thread that directed me here, fpqc first posted "You're a liar", which he then deleted and changed to "That's not true" (sorry for outing you about this, fpqc.) This suggests to me someone who regrets phrasing something in a too provocative way and deletes it, not someone who tries to offend and then covers his tracks.

    You could have written something like this: "By making comments and deleting them immediately afterwards, you are effectively making sure that your rude comments are only read by the recipient, and not by any moderators. In this sense, deleting a rude comment is worse than letting it stand. So if you really do want to avoid making enemies, you should think before you post a comment, not after." It gets the same point across.

    For what it's worth, I am also annoyed by people deleting their comments when they realize that they posted a stupid question or something incorrect, even after they have gotten a response which no longer makes sense when their comment is gone, but this is hardly something that only fpqc does. (I think Anweshi might be the worst offender.)
    • CommentAuthorYemon Choi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010
     

    What Dan said. Not that this really affects me one way or t'other, mind.

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    At the risk of prolonging this discussion even further, let me just quote this post on meta by Pete from four days ago that I found when I was trying to find this thread again.

    @fpqc: If you no longer stand by a previous comment, there's an easy remedy: delete it.
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    @Dan Petersen: Thank you for replying honestly. A few comments:

    1) When I use fpqc's full name, I'm making neither a guess nor a deduction. I'm simply using the username that was previously associated to the same account. This same MO user was first called fpqc, then fpqc's full name, and now fpqc again. (Note that, for all I know, this is not the person's real name.) If this same person wants to start fresh under a new account, that's a different issue and I would respect that.

    2) As to the malice/stupidity point: first of all, you haven't read the deleted comments. That's rather the point. The last deleted comment that was made to my question this evening (that I saw) was a response to my declaration that I wasn't going to get drawn into a disappearing comments game. The comment was "Too late." In this case the advance intention to delete seems rather clear.

    I do agree that a lot of the bad behavior of this user seems to come from a lack of self-control rather than an active desire to harm. I'm not saying that we have an evil genius on our hands here: rather we have someone who seems to be almost pathologically incapable of controlling the urge to say whatever comes into his mind. Anyway, I'm not a psychologist and I'm not inside this person's head: to me it's less important what the motivation for the behavior is than the fact that it's inappropriate, that this has been brought to the user's attention innumerable times, and yet the behavior persists. This is someone who thinks that comments can be "nasty" but "not inappropriate".

    3) "If you no longer stand by a previous comment, there's an easy remedy: delete it."

    I think this is both good advice and consistent with what I've said more recently. I'm not claiming that I wish that all the deleted comments were there so that we could all still read them. The vast majority of the deleted comments are indeed not worth reading. Rather, this goes along with another piece of advice given by Qiaochu: think about your comments before posting them. If you are going to regret making them 3 minutes in the future, then you should be able to see that now and not make the comment in the first place.

    As you yourself pointed out, nasty/inappropriate comments have been made and then deleted on this very thread! You don't think that when fpqc writes "You're a liar" he either knows or should know that he's going to delete this later on?

    [Added a few minutes later:]

    You wrote:

    ---

    You could have written something like this: "By making comments and deleting them immediately afterwards, you are effectively making sure that your rude comments are only read by the recipient, and not by any moderators. In this sense, deleting a rude comment is worse than letting it stand. So if you really do want to avoid making enemies, you should think before you post a comment, not after." It gets the same point across.

    ---

    I agree; that's functionally equivalent to what I wrote and sounds less peeved. I am indeed somewhat peeved at this point (and I'm far from the only one). There's been a lot of history leading up to this.
    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    I deleted my first comment before "this person" responded. Then when I was alerting "this person" to this fact after "this person" had posted his comment, "this person" immediately went on the offensive and said that I was playing games. I posted the comment "You're a liar" when I was upset that "this person" would accuse me of leaving comments then deleting them so the moderators wouldn't see them, which doesn't even make sense. If I just wanted to leave _"this person"_ nasty comments, I would e-mail them to him. Then I think it's pretty clear that what sometimes happens is I'll leave a response in the heat of the moment, then reconsider it and delete it. To be honest, I have a lot of respect for "this person" and I try to show it, but all I get in return is condescension from "this person". I'm going to be absolutely honest right now: had "this person" posted his comment before I deleted my comment, I would have left it up. I didn't even know that "this person" had read it. Immediately when "this person" posted his message, I responded to notify him and everyone else that I had deleted a comment before "this person" had responded and that there was nothing I could do at that point. "This person" responded by accusing me of playing games. I was trying to disclose what had just happened to avoid confusion.

    I have no intention of "playing the vanishing comment game". Sometimes before someone responds, I will remove or edit a comment, but I see no problem with doing that.

    And the "too late" response was in reference to the fact that I'd already deleted all of my comments.

    Edit: Also, those two statements are not functionally equivalent. One is accusing me of deliberate harassment and then trying to "bury the evidence" while the other one means I have an annoying habit of deleting/rewriting comments

    Edit 2: I'd appreciate it if "this person" would stop using my real name every time he wants to post something negative about me. His motives are transparent, and I don't appreciate the gesture.
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    @Pete Clark.

    Why do you stress yourself out unnecessarily? It is nasty business to get into nasty arguments, etc.. It distracts us from our purpose and puts us in a foul mood for the whole day or sometimes even more.

    My philosophy about such issues is the following: It is the mods headache to establish discipline, etiquette, etc. here.. If such things are not here, the populace should just keep out until it gets done. Indeed I got fed up of such personal arguments and for some time now I had been using MO under different names, and I substantially cut down my involvement in meta. In particular I do not at all get involved with people I consider to be nasty. Anyway this strategy of avoidance is good for me since I am a grad student. You are different since you are more senior.

    But still, I am advocating the same for you because I feel bad for you. I agree with your comments, but I would suppose that it is a great waste of time for an arithmetic geometry researcher and a young, enthusiastic and active assistant(asssociate?) prof in a promising situation, to get into disciplining matters. Leave that to the mods. You are a math professor, not a phys ed teacher, for god's sake! The emotional energy you waste for this could be spent on much, much better things. .

    @dan peterson.

    Yes, I am aware of that fault of mine. However I have essentially stopped using the Anweshi name in MO, and indeed when I post in other names, I believe I haven't made the same offence so much.

    Sometimes the comments following made me look like such a jackass .. So I deleted out of embarassment. In many situations I have taken care to post a note afterwards that I deleted so-and-so comment.

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    @Anweshi: I really like MO and have begun to promote it to my colleagues and students. As one of the most active citizens in this community, I feel like I have some stake in its continued success and also some responsibility to take action when it seems appropriate and necessary to do so. I respect that some of the other leading MOers are not so active on meta and generally like to remain above the fray. We are all doing what feels right.

    With regard to the moderators, they are all younger (about five years, on average) and more academically junor (late-career graduate students or postdocs) than I am. They have a lot to do. We have exchanged several rounds of emails concerning one problematic user. I have been given the impression that they are still searching for a solution to this problem and that help and new ideas from me (and, I presume, from others) is appreciated.

    And don't worry: my emotional well being is not in danger from anything that happens on MO. Over a period of several months I have gone from a period of zero to somewhat peeved, and now a cooling off period will take place. Compared to real life -- and even to real academic life -- this is a minor blip on the radar at worst.
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010
     

    @Pete Clark.

    Your description of the problem, as I understand, is as follows: A user says sensible things sometimes and becomes too smartass at other times. The solution is simplicity itself: do not encourage in any way; except when something really good is contributed by the user in such a way that you are forced to appreciate it. I suppose, this is much like what you would do with such a person in real life.

    This is for a common user to deal with the said user. I however do not know what the mods are supposed to do. As the site grows up, I suppose there will be many high rep users and dealings will become less impersonal. The mods can at the moment promote the growth of the community with high quality users, and then hopefully after a while things will stabilize with many people to delegate the micro-management tasks.

    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    Pete, please. Never once did you contact me in private about anything. Your strategy from the start has been to publicly shame me. It's clear that since you have not changed your top post, you intend to continue libeling me with my real name. Yes, the first part of your post is flat out libel, and I would appreciate it if you would either remove my real name or correct your error.

    You've also failed to address the fact that your timeline is seriously incorrect. I understand that you're frustrated, but please don't distort the facts.
    • CommentAuthorEmerton
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010
     

    Dear fpqc,

    Please consider again the advice given to you by Kevin Buzzard, myself, and Noah Snyder. And consider the following: mathematicians typically value technical strength and competence, and are often rather scornful of those who profess to have such strength and competence, but who in fact don't (or have less than they think they do). As the three of us mentioned above, mathematics is also a rather small world. People earn respect within the world by virtue of their mathematical achievements, and by virture of having earned it, usually expect to be treated with it. I suggest that you attempt to be more respectful to others on the site, regardless of whether you find this chafing or unfair. I also suggest that you enforce your unilateral policy of not posting on meta, and perhaps extend it to commenting on MO. There is no need for you to comment in order to read or answer questions, and experiences suggests that by commenting, you very frequently get yourself into hot water. As you noted yourself, there is a danger of travelling ever further down a self-destructive path (at least in so far as your mathematical career is concerned).

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    Professor Emerton,

    I absolutely agree, and I don't think that I've implied in any way that I am competent past the level of a sophomore. Unfortunately, since all of the posts are gone, it appears to be impossible to correct the record. Pete has been waiting for an opportunity to spring this trap, so to speak. I don't care what he does as long as he removes the part of his first post that is flat out false or if he replaces my real name with my handle.
    • CommentAuthorEmerton
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    Dear Colleagues,

    I believe that there has been more discussion on meta regarding fpqc than regarding any other user. Various appeals have been made in various directions. I am sympathetic to the appeals for tolerance for the same reasons that I am sympathetic to appeals not to close questions, not to down-vote, and so on, namely, I believe that openness is generally a good thing. Furthermore, I believe that fpqc does not deliberately act in bad faith; he simply seems to have great trouble curtailing his strong opinions and avoiding arguments.

    On the other hand, it has been pointed out to me by others who regularly read the site, that by trying to be fair to fpqc, one is potentially being unfair to many other users and potential users of MO. Most regular (or even semi-regular) users of MO are aware of fpqc through his very opinionated comments, which are often abrasive, and sometimes worse.

    I don't know what the solution is. I hope that fpqc will unilaterally decide to stop commenting on MO and meta (while still posting and answering questions). If he doesn't, perhaps the moderators will have to intervene. In the meantime, I will not join in any moratorium on answering his questions, but will continue to treat them like any other question on MO, answering them or not as I feel like it.

    • CommentAuthorEmerton
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010
     

    Dear fpqc,

    You've made strongly worded technical comments on material that is much beyond sophomore level. If these were uniformly correct, that would be one thing; but they are often incorrect, not quite to the point, or similarly off-target in some way. You have advised other users on courses they should take to learn certain material, without having any idea of their level of seniority in the mathematical world. Comments like this damage your credibility, and irritate experts. It is because of them that you have received unsympathetic comments from Buzzard, myself, Martin Brandenburg, and others. (Here I speak authoritatively only for myself, but I am confident that I understand the motives of the others as well.)

    While I am not joining Pete Clark in his moratorium, I think you are grossly misinterpreting his stance. He is an established mathematician; his only a priori interest in an undergraduate positing on MO is as to whether they might make a good graduate student in the future. However, in his view you are causing enough trouble on MO that he feels it is necessary to do something about it. If he had moderator powers I am sure he would suspend you; since he doesn't, he is doing what he can. Your troubles stem from your commenting, not from Pete Clark. Please consider a self-imposed moratorium on commenting.

    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    Professor Emerton,

    That option is certainly on the table, and I'm strongly leaning towards it, but what Pete has said in the first post of this meta thread is unacceptable. It's a deliberate distortion of the facts. He has the ability to edit it at any time, but thusfar he has refused. He has used my full name on purpose so this thread comes up in a google search for my name and has not made any effort to change the part that is blatantly untrue. These are not fair tactics.
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    Have you considered the possibility that Dr. Clark is using your full name to remind you that your actions on MO have consequences? Whether you use your full name in this particular thread or not, many users on MO who have the opportunity to affect your academic career in the future already know what it is. It seems like more of a rhetorical strategy than an unfair tactic to me.

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    "I find the practice of posting and then deleting impolite comments in the hope that the intended recipient will read them but that the moderators will not catch them highly inappropriate."

    Didn't you say that as a user with 10k reputation you can still see deleted comments? If yes, the moderators can probably see them too. In that case, it seems appropriate to ask them to review the comments, even if they are deleted, and possibly apply sanctions.

    As a side remark, what works well in such cases is "progressive" sanctions. I.e. the user is suspended first for a day. If they repeat the offense shortly thereafter, they are suspended for two days next time; then four days, eight days, etc. From my experience, the user either starts to behave, or is soon enough suspended for a long enough period to not really bother anyone.
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    The hightest reputed user, David Speyer, has got 3285 profile views as of now(old timers like Kuperberg has more, of course). fpqc is close behind, with 3283 views as of now. Definitely much ahead of the second most reputed user, Pete Clark, with 2191 views and admin Anton, with 2682 views.

    That says something about how much attention fpqc recieves within MO. fpqc is perhaps the only user with high reputation, but with even higher number of profile views.

    • CommentAuthorzskoda
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010
     
    This is Zoran Skoda, I am rather new to Math Overflow.
    I am however a regular and hard working member of nlab community and I can say that fpqc there (under his real name) has been ever a valuable and stimulating part of the collaborative community, and especially in nlab forum.

    I read a number of fpqc comments at this and some other sites. His mathematical level, while being unequally rounded and inexperienced is in general extremely hi for a sophomore and I would be glad to have such a graduate student, not to mention an undergraduate. He dares to read very technical literature and sometimes comes with sharp insights. My understanding is that Math Overflow is a bit more conventional in focus and the background is wider than the scope of nlab, and it is possible that fpqc is more often confused. But if my recommendation is of any value take it positively to that value.
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    @zskoda. Welcome to MO! I am very much aware of your presence at nlab and I am very hopeful that you will have a good time at MO and you can be equally good at MO as at nlab, if not better. It was time overdue you that you came here, I would say. I request you to have a look at my question on theories of noncommuative geometry and perhaps leave a comment whether the question is appropriate or not. I faced some problems with getting it accepted; but I will accept your opinion as I think you will be unbiased.

    As for your comments on fpqc: We are all aware of his good qualities, which are admittedly exceptional for a sophomore. To see what are the difficulties we are talking about, I suggest that you hang around for a while and find out for yourself. If you still feel the same after a few weeks, then it would be true that the crowd is wrong, and fpqc has improved. Which would be a greatly positive thing, of course.

    For the moment, it might help you to notice that fpqc himself has taken down most of his posts. A number of them were problematic and had driven us to frustration in the past. But this last action was the even more frustrating, for the evidence is gone and we now look like a bunch of bullies ganging up on on an innocent.

    Still, I must praise you for your support for a promising student.

    • CommentAuthorYemon Choi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010
     

    Zoran, I think the misgivings people here have had with fpqc's conduct (myself included, from time to time) stem more from manners rather than mathematics; however, I would also say that the signal/noise ration of his contributions may be higher on the nlab and its relatives. As I'm not a regular there, I (and others I'm sure) am happy to take your word for it.

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    @SheldonCooper: Users with 10k+ reputation can see deleted questions and answers, but cannot see deleted comments. I don't know if this is true of the moderators.

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    "It's a deliberate distortion of the facts. ... the part that is blatantly untrue"

    fpqc: Could you please clarify which part exactly is blatantly untrue? OP basically says that you posted and deleted some disrespectful comments: "Some of the comments that fpqc has made and quickly deleted are quite disrespectful, signficantly more so than the comments he lets stand.". You seem to confirm that: "I post a bunch of retorts but quickly delete them because either they aren't clever or they're too nasty". So as far as facts are concerned, it seems you yourself confirmed that his account is accurate. As for his interpretation of them (whether you posted planning to delete), that's clearly just an interpretation, so it cannot be a "deliberate distortion of the facts".
    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    "I find the practice of posting and then deleting impolite comments in the hope that the intended recipient will read them but that the moderators will not catch them highly inappropriate. I think most other MOers would agree with me."

    I didn't do that. It's simply untrue. Whether or not I did that is a factual matter, not a matter of interpretation.

    Also, his assertion that I was "drawing him into a game of deleting comments" is not true. As I said, I had deleted my first comment before he ever responded, and then after I saw he had responded, I tried to set the record straight.

    I don't care if he leaves up the part about me "drawing him into a game of deleting comments", but I don't want my name linked to malicious activity like Dr. Clark has wrongly accused me of.
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    Nobody can see deleted comments, which makes problems like this extremely frustrating for moderators (see the last paragraph of this comment). If you can, please vote up this request on meta.SE to allow moderators to see deleted comments.

    I think this thread (or a moratorium) are ultimately counterproductive. Pete, as I understand it this thread is an attempt to hold fpqc accountable and to show him that his comments (even if they are quickly deleted) have serious consequences. While I agree with this motivation, it's hard to read this thread as much more than an attempt at public humiliation. While that's unpleasant, I think it makes it harder for fpqc to transition to being an "upright citizen," which should be the goal. Moreover, the publicity amplifies the effect of any moderator action (I think), making it more difficult for moderators to act decisively. I'm personally less likely to take any action against a user if that action is going to be perceived as public humiliation.

    If you agree that there is a problem here and have some better idea in mind please let me know, by email if you wish.

    If you have such problems in the future, please email the comments (as clearly as you can remember them) along with a link to the post where the comments were to me or another moderator. I think we can handle these matters privately in a way that takes less time and effort from everybody, is less noisy, and (I believe) more effective. Last time this issue came up, you (Pete) said you were satisfied with our actions so far and with our plan for response to future incidents. I hope that's still true.

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    fpqc: I think there are several errors in your analysis. First, note that formally OP didn't say that that's what you did. He just said that doing that is inappropriate, but he didn't say explicitly you did it. He just stated the facts (which you confirmed) and let others judge whether his interpretation matches the facts. That may be a technicality, sure; on the other hand, you use technicalities yourself quite often. For example, as long as rude comments imply suspension, you should be suspended now; but you're not, because you managed to delete your comments before moderators could see and react.

    Second, that cannot possibly be "a deliberate distortion of facts". It could be deliberate only if the OP knew for sure that that wasn't your intention. But he (or none of us, for that matter) cannot know it for sure. We can only guess. based on what you say, whether we believe you, and based on your other actions and which point of view do they support more. So, really, even if that interpretation is not true, it is, at most, an honest mistake, not a deliberate distortion of facts.
    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    The only "rude" comment I made was something like "you're a liar!" I think at one point one of my messages also called him condescending. One of them said something like "Too late". Again, nothing that I wouldn't repeat here, mainly because I stand by them. If I had them on hand, I would post them all right now. Not one of them is grounds for suspension.

    Meanwhile, I'm sorry, but I don't believe in "factual relativism". Either something happened or it didn't. This is not a matter of opinion. I'm being completely straightforward with you here. I realize that you don't like me, but you're absolutely wrong and you're letting your biases get in the way.

    I think that the reason why that assertion is still in the OP is because Dr. Clark's intention is to have this thread come up when one searches on the internet for my name. That is, it's purely malicious. He has had ample time to change it, but he still refuses to.
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    "I think it makes it harder for fpqc to transition to being an "upright citizen," which should be the goal"

    Anton: That's certainly not my goal. Rather, my goal is to have a place where I can have math-oriented, interesting, and (importantly here) civil discussions, and by "civil" I mean what most other adult professionals mean. I can't speak for Pete L. Clark (or anyone else), but it's hard to believe there are many people here whose goal is to nurse one poorly mannered guy and teach him appropriate manners.
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    fpqc:

    "Either something happened or it didn't. This is not a matter of opinion."

    - True; except nobody but you has a way of knowing what happened in that particular case (i.e. which intentions you had). Nobody else can know that for sure; thus, they cannot distort facts deliberately because they have no access to the facts. Your assurance as to being straightforward doesn't change that since I'm sure you realize that people are not obliged to take your words at face value.

    "I realize that you don't like me, but you're absolutely wrong."

    - I'm wrong in not liking you, and I should really like you more?
    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    Go away, this doesn't concern you. You have no information related to the matter, and you're casting aspersions on my honesty. You are an anonymous MO user who always seems to appear on meta to say something nasty about me.
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    "Go away, this doesn't concern you."
    Please, may I decide that for myself? Thank you in advance.

    "You have no information related to the matter"
    I think I do. The comments in question are gone, sure, but you admitted to making them here, plus there are lots of previous comments (both on meta and MO) that are still up.

    "You are an anonymous MO user"
    That sounds funny coming from a guy with nickname "fpqc".

    "who always seems to appear on meta to say something nasty about me."
    No, it only seems that way, and that's because almost every other thread on meta is about you.
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    I have the nickname fpqc because I don't want things like this to happen. Also, you don't see me posting anonymously casting doubts on someone's character.

    "Please, may I decide that for myself? Thank you in advance."
    No, because you have nothing constructive to add here other than how much you hate my guts.

    "I think I do. The comments in question are gone, sure, but you admitted to making them here, plus there are lots of previous comments (both on meta and MO) that are still up."
    You'd be surprised if you looked up my comments on MO. The vast majority of them are quite tame.

    "No, it only seems that way, and that's because almost every other thread on meta is about you."
    That doesn't give you the right to defame my character.

    I really am not convinced that my comments on MO in the past have been totally out of line. Sure, some of them have been controversial, but I think that you're vastly overestimating the number of comments of that sort that I've made.
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    "I have the nickname fpqc because I don't want things like this to happen."
    But it's not OK for me to have any nickname I choose?

    "Also, you don't see me posting anonymously casting doubts on someone's character."
    Well, for one thing, you did post that "you are a liar" comment. And it wouldn't be the first time; you also said something like "that famous linguist is such a liar", etc.

    Also, I'm not casting doubts on, or defaming, anyone's character. I'm just saying that if a person, any person, says "my intention was X", that doesn't make it automatically true.

    "I really am not convinced that my comments on MO in the past have been totally out of line."
    So being suspended (apparently multiple times), having a fresh thread about yourself every week, and being explicitly told by several people that they are indeed out of line, still didn't convince you?
  19.  
    This is what I am seeing.
    1. In the first post of this thread, Pete L. Clark makes the bold assertion that user fpqc is "posting and then deleting impolite comments in the hope that the intended recipient will read them but that the moderators will not catch them". He offers no proof for this, and in a later post he admits that the bad behaviour is probably due to bad self-control rather than malice. To me it now seems like a flat-out lie. Yet this first post stays up, along with fpqc's real name.
    2. It is pointed out that Pete himself has scolded fpqc for using people's real name online, which is rude because they might not want MO to come up on a Google search. Pete makes the irrelevant comment that "he's making neither a guess nor a deduction" -- in the previous comment about MO user Gerry, for instance, it was also crystal clear that the person was identified correctly! -- and that fpqc used to be public with his real name, even if he isn't anymore.
    3. fpqc asks politely (in an otherwise maybe not-so-polite post) not to have his real name posted over and over again and says that Pete's motives for refusing to do this are transparent. Pete makes no effort to counter this claim about his motives.

    To me, this looks like an associate professor going out of his way to ruin the reputation of an undergraduate student over a grudge on an Internet forum. Please tell me you're not that small and petty?

    ----
    On a sidenote, I'm sorry I used you as an example in a rude way Anweshi. It was inappropriate and added nothing to the discussion.
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    @dan petersen. No problem for calling me out on my behavior. After all you noted only the truth.

    Now about the rest: Yes, it seems that Dr. Pete L. Clark is indeed going out of his way to scold fpqc. I do not know what is in his mind, prompting him to use fpqc's real name(which we take on trust). But it is also true that Pete Clark and many people who are more senior went out of their way so many times in the past to explain things more politely to fpqc. If it is real life, how many times will you explain in very decent and soft terms and not lose your temper as the offence repeats? What I can read from this, is that Pete Clark is a bit peeved.

    Also I see that you are new to meta. I must suspect that you do not know of all the past history. Yes, at first sight this might look like settling a grudge. But what is the grudge? There is a lot of history buildup here, which you are probably not aware of. And which is unfortunately deleted by now.

    I would have liked to support fpqc's request to Dr. Pete L. Clark to not use fpqc's real name, which is a fair enough demand from considerations of reputation. However if I do that, what guarantee do I have that fpqc would not do something regrettable in future, biting me back in the ass? Absolutely none. He is not in my or your control. Only fpqc can clarify his motives and his future plans about the difficulties.

    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    @Pete Clark. Now somebody has questioned your integrity and character, and accused you of going at an undergrad to settle a grudge. We who were here longer are able to see the justification for your actions. But what about a newcomer? I am finding it hard to explain to two new meta joinees what exactly the problem is. I hope you understand what I mean. It is below your level to have an internet fight with an undergrad. You are at a disadvantage here. You will be required to keep all high principles, and you will be required to stick to your words all the time etc., while the opposing party can be more free with wayward behavior and can do rude stuff while simultaneouslly requiring others to be polite to him and respect all his rights.

    <<Edited: Here I had something written addressed towards Anton, which I now feel is not a very relevant comment. Sorry for deleting. I didn't want to sidetrack; so I hope the deletion is justified.>>

  20.  
    Your question pretty much answers itself Dan. Pete Clark has far more to lose from this interaction than fpqc does, as Pete has an academic job and the judgement of his peers have a major impact on his career. Moreover, it's not a major priority of meta or MO to protect anonymity. We're trying to be a forum for the math community, and we encourage people to post under their real names to foster development of connections.

    I agree largely with the flavour of Emerton's advice to fpqc. Consider for a while only posting an answer or a comment when it significantly contributes to questionerr achieving their goals. Let little grievances slide and try to avoid escalating them -- this one for example. Fighting to the death every little issue is part of the problem.

    I could imagine that if I had a forum like this as an undergraduate I could have got into similar situations as fpqc. So I do hope we find a way to ensure he interacts positively with the community. I think one of the problems is fpqc likely doesn't have much direct in-person experience dealing with mathematicians a "peer level". So the standard societal norms of mathematics haven't sunk into him. I doubt it's easy to communicate those mores in an efficient way electronically.

    I wonder if we should consider putting together a little 3-person play illustrating an interaction between a grad-student, a prof at a "mid-level" university and a fields medallist, together with their internal thoughts. Something of a comedy of manners illustrating how much we process our thoughts, and how much less "comes out" than what we think. I think it's somewhat of a peculiarity of mathematics that we do have pretty fussy standards for how processed our answers should be.
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    @fpqc. I saw your deleted comment asking me to stop instigating, and I waited for a good bit of time for another one to perhaps appear, thinking that you wanted to put it in a different way.

    You asked me earlier also to leave a discussion about you, without specifying any reason whatsoever. Then I obliged. However this time I must demur. Might I ask you a reason now for me to quit?

    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    Because you appear to be instigating a fight between Pete Clark and Dan Petersen. Also, you're suggesting that I've been "fighting dirty". That's absolutely untrue, and you can see it if you read my posts in this topic.

    Specifically this nonsense:
    "You are at a disadvantage here. You will be required to keep all high principles, and you will be required to stick to your words all the time etc., while the opposing party can be more free with wayward behavior and can do rude stuff while simultaneouslly requiring others to be polite to him and respect all his rights."
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    Oh? I am not instigating a fight between Pete Clark and Dan Petersen. Dan Petersen questioned the motives of Pete Clark, and I tried to defend him since he is not here at the moment.

    For the record, I state here clearly that I am strongly on the side of Pete Clark(except in the issue of using fpqc's real name, which I myself do not use nowadays, but I am not going to ask Pete Clark to refrain from its use either.). If ,Dan Petersen wants to address something I said, I do take responsibility of my statements and will answer them instead of Pete Clark(if I am awake, not in lectures, etc.)..

    Also, you're suggesting that I've been "fighting dirty". That's absolutely untrue, and you can see it if you read my posts in this topic.

    It is true that in this thread you are not fighting dirty(or in recent ones in meta). I had acknowledged your betterment earlier also.

    But you have done "this nonsense" many times earlier. Admittedly, my memories of such incidents are of one month or so ago. But there were plenty of such incidences then, and it had stuck in my mind.

    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    Oh wait, you mean when I reprimanded you for calling MO a "totalitarian dictatorship" because he wouldn't reopen your topic? I stand by that. You were completely in the wrong. There's a famous saying that I can't quite remember about pots and kettles...
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    @fpqc. That was just two weeks ago. No, I didn't mean that incident. In that thread I acknowledged that I was rude to Anton and apologized for it. In that thread you might have been in the right. The only issue I had you with you then was that I was not in the mood for addressing each of your objections.

    Thanks for your edit adding pots, kettles and all that. It's precisely what I wanted to say to you. After your initial rampage here, you should be the last person to accuse people of being rude.

  21.  
    I have never called people names like that. Your little temper tantrum was brilliant though.
  22.  
    Err, so you didn't post (multiple times) comments saying that "so and so is a liar"?
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     

    After my tantrum, I totally changed my style of usage of MO, and out of laziness I didn't change my username in meta. I essentially kept to my word to shed that username. On the other hand, did you, reverend Sir, do anything at all towards keeping to your plan of sticking to math alone?

    • CommentAuthorHarry Gindi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010 edited
     
    Oh, Sheldon! I had to correct you on something: I've been suspended only once.

    To answer your question:
    If Pete Clark still refuses to change the initial post, then yes, he is a liar. As it stands, he _lied_, but he's a _liar_ if he won't retract that statment.

    Actually, Anweshi, I've tried to, but unfortunately, I've been pulled back into meta multiple times. This all started because I deleted a math-related comment. The thread started by Professor Buzzard was because I deleted a question.
    • CommentAuthorAnweshi
    • CommentTimeFeb 18th 2010
     

    Suspended only once! The mods have surely read Shakespeare on mercy!

  23.  

    Let's call people as they prefer to be called. It's polite and less confusing to people who don't know how to decode the usernames.

    I have now closed this thread.